About Marriage

Lately I'm wondering what's the meaning of marriage for today people?
Lately I'm wondering what's inside those couple marriage people mind when they like to have a baby even their condition isn't supported?
Lately I'm wondering what's the meaning of couple?
Lately I'm wondering what's the meaning of the phrase "....in good and bad time until die do us apart..." when a couple do the marriage ceremony in front of the church?
Lately I'm wondering should we marriage as soon as possible no matter what?
Lately I'm wondering is marriage just a joke,to get what we're dreaming on?
Lately I'm wondering is it that bad to be a single these days,before u find the right person to marriage?
Lately I'm wondering is it just a matter of a piece of legal paper?

I'm not an expert, I'm just wondering...

A little Poem...

Captain oh Captain
Don't come please don't come
Sail away oh sail away

I've already settle down here
Don't invite me to sail again with u
Just because you lost your crew
I've been build my house
Protect me from rain and storm

I know it's empty
But a lot of friends come and go here
I haven't sailing again since our last journey
Am I afraid of the seasick?
Am I waiting for another ship?

Sail away oh sail away
Captain oh Captain
Should I or shouldn't I go with U
Will I find another ship come to this harbour?

---Me---

Lamongan-Tuban-Bojonegoro Journey

Last Friday was a holiday in my Alto office. So,this time my travelling partners and I decided to go to Tuban and some places around it.Jadi kita coba lewat tol Sby-Gresik jurusan Manyar. Kluar dari Manyar kita tinggal jalan lurus aja mengikuti jalan besar itu. Sekitar 2 jam dari Sby kita sudah sampai di Gua Maharani and Wisata Bahari Lamongan (Tanjung Kodok)yang berseberangan. Karena matahari masih menyengat kita putusin masuk gua dulu. Untung sekali waktu kita didalem cuman ada sekitar 6 orang.Uda puas tembak sana sini (baca=foto2) kita keluar nyebrang ke WBL.

Di WBL kita hanya membayar tiket yang terbatas(hanya bisa memainkan beberapa wahana gratis) seharga Rp 15.000,- . Bagi yang ingin memainkan semua wahana (sekitar 26 wahana)di dalam bisa membayar tiket terusan seharga Rp 35.000,- .Disana ada jetski,kano,bumper boat,bumpercar,go-kart,motocross,rumah sakit hantu,taman air,taman kaca,kolam renang,restaurant,museum kapal dan kerang, n masih banyak lagi deh.Kita kelilingi lokasi wisata itu sampai pukul 17.00 WIB dan kita sudah diharuskan untuk keluar karena lokasi akan ditutup.Tetap saja acara tembak menembak camera blum puas terlaksana.Note : WBL ini pantas untuk dikunjungi

Kita lanjutin perjalanan menuju Tuban.Setelah sampai di kotanya,sambil jalan sembari kita mencari hotel yang cukup murah.Lalu dari rekomendasi beberapa orang Hotel Ratna di jalan Ronggolawe adalah yg disarankan.Setelah berkeliling beberapa lama kami putuskan untuk makan seafood dulu di jalan Panglima Sudirman (di sebelah toko Ana).Perlu diingat bahwa Tuban memberlakukan jalan satu arah alias kalo terlewat kita harus balik lagi satu putaran panjang lewat jalan Basuki Rahmat :( Kita makan diiringi bunyi ombak di lautan di seberang kita.

Akhirnya kita putusin check-in di Ratna. Kita ambil 1 kmr besar double bed+AC+km mandi+TV Rp 100.000,- untuk Gbus,Hertong,Panci,Jus and I and 1 kmr kecil 2singgle bed+AC+Km mandi+Tv Rp 85.000,- buat Bo n Yeyen. Setelah mandi semua sekitar pk 00.00 kita putusin kluar bentar liat Masjid di Alun2 yang unik and "rencananya" ke tepi Pantai duduk2 n ngobrol di barengi deburan ombak n mungkin minum apa yang hangat.Blarrrr batal deh, cuman hanya karna ketakutan yang tak beralasan dari bbrp orang.Ya uda, sebel abis puter jauh2 ternyata cuman mau lewat tepi pantai (yang entah udah brapa kali kita lewati)yg bener aja. Pulang dah.... bobok!

Paginya kita brangkat ke Nglirip.Kalo dari Tuban kita ke arah Montong.Akhirnya kita sampe kurang lebih 2 jam perjalanan.Nga rugi juga ternyata air terjun di Nglirip ini keren juga.Sekali lagi kita diberkati.Tak ada seorangpun disana,tidak panas n tidak hujan.Siiiipppp.....

Akhirnya kita pulang lewat Bojonegoro daripada kita balek lagi ke Tuban.Waiting for the next trip...

Maharani Cave	Tuban Mosque	Enjoy
Me	Nglirip Waterfall

Another Photos

What's the meaning of Adventure?

ad·ven·ture

1. An undertaking or enterprise of a hazardous nature.
2. An undertaking of a questionable nature, especially one involving intervention in
another state's affairs.
3. An unusual or exciting experience
4. To take a risk; dare.
5. To proceed despite risks.

It means that if we're not a risk taker don't take a risk by being an explorer,a pioneer who's always hungry to explore a new place and longing to be close to the nature. Risk taker doesn't means that he/she is a blind person who want to suicide or hurt themself without preparation or blind knowledge about the place. An adventurer preparing themselves for the worse risk but doesn't mean that they want to find troubles.

Good Luck ...

On a day like today
a young lady feels sad
For she knew the time
has come to leave
this limbo of joy and
belonging and return to the
far lonely world elsewhere.

Bravely, she forced
a smile at her friends
Without much of a second look,
she bid them farewell.

Unconsciously,
a faint smile ghosted at her mouth.
'I'll see them again soon.
Take care, my friend,
I'll be back.

(adopted from Melvin Lee Poem)

"Good Luck","See U" being my favorite word lately. Now,I hv to say it once again to a friend of mine n once again....she's my "neighbour", my officemate, and one of my travelling partner.

Have to give applaus for her because she's willing to take decision for her live even she has no idea what will she do for her life except being an artist right now.As long as you happy with your decision I'm happy for U Pal. Try your best n Gud Luck!

I know that life's full of choices.This year a lot of choices has been made by some of my friends and I. Maybe I hv to say that words once again in August to one of my bestfriend who choose to take her scholarship to Washington D.C. After some time,she decided to take it and leave her job at EF and also her boyfriend here.

C Ya, fren...

Dedicated 4 Binx (Ex Altoers,tetangga ku di kantor,adik kelasku walau nga kenal sebelumnya baek di SMA n Univ yang sama)

Friends Forever
© Mariah Hinshaw

We will be friends forever
Amigos, buddies, pals
Where you are, I’ll be
No matter how many miles
We will be friends forever
No matter how many mistakes you or I make
Because as long we are friends
There’s nothing we couldn’t take
We will be friends forever
No matter where we’ll be
Because when we leave one another behind
You’ll be in the heart of me
We will be friends forever
No matter how old we are
Because when you’re friends forever
You’ll never be too far


Maem di Wing Dome

About Trust...

"Loe boleh nga percaya sama orang,tapi kalo loe nga percaya ama orang yang sayang dgn tulus sama loe itu beda,itu sama dengan penghianatan" (Tentang Dia, Melly Goeslaw)

Menurutku kepercayaan itu sangat tinggi nilainya. Pernikahan didasarkan atas kepercayaan.Persahabatan didasarkan atas kepercayaan.Pembagian pekerjaan didasarkan atas kepercayaan. Semuanya berawal dari sebuah perasaan percaya sehingga terbentuklah suatu hubungan atau interaksi dengan sesama manusia.

Kepercayaan yang tinggi kepada kita menunjukkan bahwa harga kita di mata orang lain itu adalah tinggi juga. Oleh karena itu kepercayaan ini haruslah di jaga dengan baik. Agar supaya kita juga dihargai dengan tinggi di mata orang lain.
Apalagi kalau kita merusak kepercayaan orang terdekat kita, seperti kata film itu, itu bisa dikatakan mirip dengan penghianatan. Selain nilai kita jatuh, kita juga melukai teman,sahabat,istri,suami,atau saudara kita yang mempercayai kita.

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember waht peace there may be in silence.
As fas as possible without surrender be on good tems with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career,however humble;
it is a real possesion in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your bussiness affairs;for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be Yourself.
Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is a perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,gracefully surrendering the thingsof youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,whatever you concieve Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham,drudgery and broken dreams,it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.Strive to be happy.

---Max Ehrmann---

Back to Reality

2 ways....and I take both of it. So starting from today, I'm working on 2 places.One still the old one, at Excellogix.com and the new one is on my own family company. Hope I can stay long enough at the second one. I don't like it and I know I'll not enjoy it.I'll do my best!(hope so)

Today our last year bonus at Alto is flying away....there's a mistake or human error or whatever it called.Hiks.....And I use it to pay my new MP3 Player hehehehehe.....Thanks 4 Yunita who help me to bought it from Germany :p

Malang Trip (Again)----Batu

Third time ..... it means I've been to Malang for 3 weekend in a month.Bravo!!! Okay...this time I drive Ivon's car and there's a problem with it. I can speed it max in 80km/hour. Yeah right....the road so empthy and I've to be patience and drive slowly.It's 2a.m. when we arrive at Batu.We find a hotel for Ivon because she bring her boyfriend along with her,since it should be a ladies night and her boyfriend always come along with her in our meeting lately. Then Rosa,Cindy and I spend the night at Lilik's house. We hv a lot of chit chat about ourself lately.

When I just close my eyes at around 5 a.m. Ivon's boyfriend call us and tell us that Ivon's sick and need to go to the doctor.Ohhh.....I'm go to the hotel with Lilik and bring Ivon to the clinic,nothing serious just a problem with her stomach. Puhhhh....

Spend one more day at Batu, eat ,talk, and playing at Jatim Park with Henny.We spent the night together tonight,playing Cashflow (our favourite game). Tomorrow we (Cindy,Ivon, and her bf) gonna back to Surabaya and back to work!!!!!


Old Gang

Jember Trip

With my journey friends(bus,byor,panci,and the new and unusual one hertong), yesterday I'm going to Ambulu,Jember to see Tanjung Papuma beach. It's 5 of us and no guys going with us this time. Like usual,I'm the driver ^_^ We take about more than 3 hours ride on my car. A strange accident happen to one of the wheel before we left Surabaya.I'd to change my tire first but nothing happen to that wheel.

We arrive at the hotel at about 1 a.m and take some I don't know what should I call it?Supper or dinner? hahaha ^_^ Then we take some rest and sleep.We woke up early in the morning because we're very excited to go to the beach ASAP.

We arrive at the beach at about 9 a.m. Yeah.....we made it!!!Oh, just hear that sound of the wave and smell of that salty water.It's hot but we like it.Take a lot of picture there,it's awesome. It's forbidden to swim here because its huge wave of the south sea.

Tired but feel satisfied somehow. :p Can't wait 4 another crazy trip........

Me	Tanjung
The Rock

Another Photo

Malang Trip (Again)----Car's Wedding

Wow,yesterday is the second time in this month I go to Malang.It's because of Caroline's wedding's held in Malang.Going to Malang with the '98 gang.Iyan & his new girlfriend aren't going together with us.We bring 2 cars from Surabaya,mine and Ardi's.

We stay at Hotel Perdana,Batu(20-30 minutes) from Malang and the hotel quiet cheap and clean.We take 2 rooms,one for the boys and one for the girls.After some preparation and make up,together we go to the restaurant.Unlucky since we come a little bit late,we hv to separate so far cause the table is not enough 4 all of us.

After the wedding ceremony we going back to the hotel,the ladies clean of the make up and going to bed eventhough some of us still can't sleep.The gentlemen playing card on the other room.Not so long, Lilik and Rosa (our friend who live in Batu) come and have a chat since they haven't meet the gang for a long time.

After midnight Lilik,Rosa and I going out to buy some durian and go back to the hotel.Most of them hate durian or didn't want to eat it so Iyan,Lilik and I finish it ourself like the old time ^_^

Today we check out from the hotel and going to Malang,eat Bakso Bakar,then stop for a while at Vei's house before we playing bowling and go-kart at Puncak Dieng.

Caroline & Michael

' 98 Gang

Another Photos

Malang Trip

Yesterday I'm going to Malang with Xtien,so nice to see her again and talk a lot during the trip. We're going to see the boys (Ikang,Ian,and Iten). All of them are here because they want to avoid the black out in Bali (Nyepi celebration).They come since 9/3.

After we're arrive,I take them eat at Waroeng Steak then playing at Plaza Araya. It's already around 7p.m. when we going back to Surabaya and the boys also coming with us.

We take our dinner at Kya Kya Kembang Jepun and then still we take some snack at Citras when C Fong (Xtien older sister) calling and ask us to join her at RedBoxx.I take them to some popular night place of Surabaya.

We take a drink and listen to the hard music and sometimes the boys also dance.We left RedBoxx at about 3 a.m. I certainly will not going home at this time.Xtien ask me to sleep at the hotel together with her and the boys(luckyly the place is big enough for all of us)


Bali Gang

What will Happen?

Where are we on 5 or 10 years later?
Mungkin kita akan bertemu di sebuah cafe (ato rumah Ardi - Dj,like always)
Duduk dan berceloteh dan tertawa dan menanyakan
"How's your life?" "Gimana kabarmu?" "Sekarang ngapain?"
Mungkin dengan anak2 berteriak dan berlari di sekeliling kita
Mungkin salah satu dari kita sibuk menyusui bayinya
Mungkin salah satu dari kita menggendong bayi yang lain
Mungkin salah satu dari kita blajar lagi ke luar negeri
Mungkin salah satu dari kita tlah berkeliling dunia
Mungkin salah satu dari kita menjadi ibu rumah tangga yang baik
Mungkin salah satu dari kita terlalu sibuk dengan pekerjaan (sampe2 masih single)
Mungkin pembicaraan kita tidak lagi connect(jadi musti blajar telepati kayak Iyan n Botak)

Hahaha yesterday '98 gank kumpul2 ngrayain Imut's birthday and mumpung Sheila di Sby (lagi blajar di Germany). Melihat mereka smua jadi ingat mereka yang dulu dan perubahan mereka sekarang. Otomatis jadi berpikir...hemmm...kita akan jadi seperti apa ya di masa yang akan datang?

People change but...keep up the team guys...miss u all.

Choices of Life

"Berbahagialah orang yang tau apa yang dia cari dan diberi waktu yang cukup untuk mencari" (Tentang dia, by Melly Goeslaw)

Ok,aku sampai lagi di sebuah persimpangan. Dan jalan yang harus ku tempuh sangatlah sulit untuk diputuskan. Yang satu...jalan yang suram,penuh duri dan batu serta tak ada makhluk hidup yang terlihat disana tapi diujungnya terlihat ladang gandum,dan buah segar serta berbagai tawaran yang tak terhingga dan membuat air liur menetes.Bagaikan melihat kolam emas...

Jalan yang satu lagi...jalan yang ceria,penuh sinar,buah2an (walau tidak berlebihan) di kiri dan kanan jalan nya, makhluk2 berbagai jenis berlompatan menari dan tertawa,tapi...tak terlihat sesuatu yang bisa ditawarkan atau dijanjikan oleh jalan ini karna ujung jalan ini masih tidak terlihat.

Aku harus terus berjalan,jalan manakah yang harus ku ambil?Manakah yang harus kutapak untuk masa depan ku?????? Disinilah aku duduk,bersila di persimpangan ini.Menunggu kata hatiku berbicara, harus kemanakah diriku???????

China Liaoning Handicapped Acrobatics and Art Troupe

"Siapa kira,tak punya tangan bisa menyangga langit.Siapa kira, tak punya kaki bisa menghentak bumi" said San Tan, pemandu pertunjukan yang duduk di kursi rodanya. Kalimat tersebut untuk menggambarkan besarnya semangat hidup dan kehebatan rekan-rekannya para penyandang cacat.(Jawa Pos,Rabu 16 Feb 2005)

Hari minggu kemarin aku ngliat pertunjukan akrobat yang lain dari biasanya, soalnya pemainnya physically is not perfect.Some of them are deaf and cannot speak.The other hv no leg,or hand.But their performance is perfect.Just like normal person. Mereka nglakukin hampir semua gerakan acrobat seperti biasanya.Salto di udara,lompat harimau,tari,nyanyi,putar diudara dengan kekuatan gigi,dsb.This group is the only acrobat group in China who have handicapped people as the member,or maybe in the world.Kelompok ini uda berdiri 14 tahun di kota Shenyang.

Wow...bagi olahragawan seperti aku,aku tau gimana rasanya,gimana sulitnya nglakuin semua itu bahkan dengan 2 kaki dan 2 tangan yang sempurna. Aku harus angkat topi untuk mereka yang pastinya bekerja n berusaha 2x or brapa kali lipat lebih dari orang biasa. Untuk akrobat yang sulit bisa memakan waktu sampai 4 tahun latihan katanya.

So, be though 4 U if physically U're not normal. There'll be always a hope somewhere if U try.And 4 U who's born normal and physically complete,be happy with what U have n use it for U and also the other.Don't be so selfish and keep Ur body healthy because its a gift.

If u want to see some picture of the performance just click http://dolphinrider.fotopic.net/c433276.html

Letting Go...

Beach oh beach...
Please bleach tis heart...
Make it warm and clean
So that I can feel that u're here
Far Far away is the name of the place you live

Beach oh beach
I can't see the end of yours
So that the end of mine
Where r u my love?

Beach oh beach
Come and take this tears with u
Back to the place where u come from
Cause that's what I should do
Walkaway and let you go....

Annual Meeting 2005

Nga krasa uda 3 taon kerja di Alto. Taon ini lain dari yang biasanya,annual meeting diadakan di Villa Trawas.Kita brangkat pagi jam 9 kemarin dan balik jam 11 hari ini.Ada satu mobil yang pulang duluan jam 6 pagi. Acara kurang lebih sama,kecuali taon ini ada hiburan tengah malam.Si Gbus ultah hari ini jadi tadi tengah malam tepat jam 12 kita kerjain dia.Hueueheuue seru abis deh,ada ya makhluk kayak gitu.

Happy Birthday Alto...Happy Birthday Gbus.....

Goodbye....

Udah lama nga nulis,sibuk berat amat sangat.....

At last,I see all of my dearest new friends. Yuky,Yuka,I Kang,I An, I Tien. What a nice weekend to spend. Going to the beach, talking,laughing,jogging,then eat,eat and eat.

Then I spent almost 1 week with Yuka and Yuky. Going to some places,yeah right like there are another place except shopping centre. huehuehhee.. TP,SP Mall,PTC,and so on.But then I hardly divided my time because my oldest dog is sick :(. We spent as much as time to b together but it's like not enough ..hueheuuehee...then we had to say c u again. I ride them to the airport for the first flight in the morning after they canceled their flight the day before.

Today,in my office I hv to hear the truth about my dog.She's past away. she's 11 years old (= 77 years old human)and this is my time to say goodbye... :( I hardly keep my tears away. I know I have to let her go but after all of the year I've spent with her....it's so hard.Goodbye Panther....may you be blessed and have some fun there...

Old & New

Taon ini pemerintah mengeluarkan himbauan untuk tidak berhura-hura di malam taon baru,di karenakan suasana duka di Indonesia.Sampai hari ini tercatat 80.000 nyawa lebih menjadi korban tsunami di Indonesia.

I should be at Bali with Xtien-Titien families this new year eve.But,the tsunamis make me and some of my officemate cancelled the trip for the sake of taking a saving way.

So at last,I spent this new year eve with the old gank, '98 gank at Ardi-Dj's house. It's been so long since I met them, sometimes I feel that I'm not belong to that group anymore cause I'm not as outgoing as the other. So much changes between us,so many people in and out our live,so many unspoken words,but....still that familiar laugh are still the same. The laugh that we were share together. So there we are like an old day,celebrating and welcoming the year of 2005. HAppy New Year to all of u my friend,wherever you are.....